Tell me if you’ve ever had one of these days. You wake up with the cutest 3-year-old face two inches from your nose and the words, “I’m hungry” ringing in your ears and dawn hasn’t broken yet. You can hear the 6-year-old singing in the bathroom, and she never sings unless she’s being creative. And you just know that when you go get the baby, there’s going to be the nastiest biological disaster just waiting for you. But it’s all good, because….with any luck, today is going to be same old/same old boring excitement…..Thank God! Just look at that silver lining.
Recognize Your Attitude
A friend called yesterday and I asked, “how you’ve been?”. “Fine,” she says “it’s been boring around here, nothing exciting”. “That’s great!”, I told her. She was less than enthused about my response, so she went into greater detail. I listened and was supportive, but I still thought she had a good week.
It boils down to how you look at it. Her current attitude was, she had an ordinary crappy week. Because someone keeps stealing her parking spot, and her angel had to be picked up from school because she shoved a crayon up her nose. She had a state trooper ask for her autograph, and she had to send her husband back to “How To Properly Load A Dishwasher” boot camp! Again, I say it was a good week!
Shift Your Viewpoint
Most of our weeks are filled with annoying moments like that, but the thing is…..we don’t see them as the gifts they are until we have a really horrendous day. When the worst happens, you look back on those days with nostalgia and a wish that the worst thing that you can report is a crayon filled nose.
But, when your spouse takes a Cancer journey, your viewpoint changes. And that is the silver lining for some of the worst days in your life. So many times I prayed I would have those days of small annoyances back, and miraculously we were given that opportunity. We received the best gift, not only did we beat his cancer, but we learned how to see each moment from a different vantage, identifying the silver lining. And if it wasn’t immediately apparent, we taught ourselves to change our attitude until we could see it. It’s about seeing life not as half full or half empty, but appreciating the fact that you have a cup!
It’s a gift that I wish I could give everyone without them having to take the journey themselves. But then as my friend reminded me, I have this blog…….
Search For The Silver Lining
Am I saying, don’t ever get frustrated or annoyed? Hell no. Just this morning I was cut-off going to work, and I was so tempted to ram my Blazer so far up his….no, I’m not saying don’t get annoyed. Nor am I saying you can’t share your annoyances with whoever will sit still and listen. But by being your life’s cruise director, you can direct your attitude to the positive side. Hey, I found out my brakes are in good working order, and he made me slow down possibly saving me from giving away my autograph for free! And by avoiding my instincts of ramming my blazer so far up his…. I arrived at work alive, with no body damage and in time to grab the last blueberry bagel!
Wallow in your frustration for as long as you need to……(are you done yet cause you’ve got more to read). Then identify the silver lining, and take a moment to be grateful for it and move on! When you can see the silver lining, you can also see the rewards that life hands you. Happiness is a fresh blueberry bagel…with cream cheese!
What I’m saying is don’t sweat the small stuff for long, but be grateful for it instead. Because you’re alive to be annoyed about the shaving cream on the shower walls that has to be cleaned before you change a nuclear disaster diaper and then make a predawn breakfast. Thankfully, your husband is lying within easy reach of your sharp elbows, cause that jerk isn’t sleeping if you can’t. You have another boring day to look forward to, and I’m truly grateful!